4 The Energetics of Speaking

Speak from a Happy Heart in Troubled Times

Stop giving ’til it hurts & find the exquisite balance of giving & receiving

This quote from Eleanor Roosevelt embodies the spirit of Transformational Speaking.

“The giving of love is an education in itself.”

Yet while we want to express that high vibration of Love, receiving it is just as important for our own balance. So . . . what if we could also experience speaking as an act of receiving Love?

For a simple practice of how good that feels, watch this 4-minute video from Master Mingtong Gu on “How to Give and Receive Energy.”

And then read on for my story of why I am joining him
on June 20 for Qigong for a Happy Heart!

Beginning on June 20, I am taking Mingtong’s online course
Qigong for a Happy Heart.
I invite you to join me on this seven-week journey.  Here’s why.

Last winter I hit the wall. I’m what’s called an HSP (highly sensitive person), or an intuitive empath. That means I take in a lot from other people, newscasts, and noisy environments that compromise my energy. Add to that a computer crash and the critical health challenges of people I love, and I have been running on empty. As a speaker and teacher, I need to be filled up to be able to be fully present for my amazing groups. Yet here I was, drained and dry.  Thinking a winter in San Miguel de Allende in central Mexico would restore me, I arrived to an inhospitable rental where privacy was only a fleeting thought and was getting more stressed by the day.

My return after five weeks from what was to be a three-month sabbatical was pure providence. I heard there was a new teacher in Santa Fe, Master Mington Gu from China, who had purchased a beautiful property (a former spa) to bring Wisdom Healing Qigong to the world. My sister had met Mingtong at Omega Institute last year and assured me he was the real deal so I went for a day’s program. It cost under $100 and I told myself I could leave at any time, because when I’m stressed I don’t want to sit through one more damn thing that feels like work. The next day I knew I would be going for a residential week. And here’s why.

First, of all I was in the presence of a teacher who held the highest vibration of joy I’ve ever experienced. That’s Love.  That’s healing. And what he explained was that each time we experience stress or a hit of bad news, our bodies constrict. Over time that constriction causes disease. Through a very precise practice of movement, sound, and meditation, that constriction loosens its grip and we are able to heal. Mingtong had healed from asthma, which I’ve had since a big loss 25 years ago, and I was compelled to see what was possible.

So, I spent a week at The Chi Center with 45 other brave souls, meeting the hidden, resistant places in my body that had something to say and ultimately releasing, releasing, releasing . . . tears without a story attached, followed by anger so profound I had to go outside into the wild gail-force winds and let ‘er rip. Damn that felt good! So good I went back for a second week and left with a lighter heart and feeling of possibility that had lain dormant for a very long time. My asthma symptoms have lessened by at least half.

“You don’t need a new teacher. It’s time to embody what you already know.”

That’s the message I received last year when I asked for inner guidance about finding a new teacher.

Might that be wise counsel for all of us who are seekers?  It’s such a paradox. As speakers we give out, as seekers we take in . . . and in . . . and in. But to walk our talk takes integration and embodiment of wisdom, not more information.

I now have a practice that supports embodiment. I begin most days with Wisdom Healing Qigong. Other days life intervenes and I feel the difference.  Master Mingtong radiates the loving heart he teaches and that in itself changes the world. He exemplifies the 540 vibration of joy I talk about as true power in my book Transformational Speaking (see pages 144-146). I want what he’s having!

Is it possible that happiness is in pursuit of you if you turn within to find it? I hope you are inspired to join me on June 20 to restore your Happy Heart and Inner Smile.

You’ll learn all about Haola  which means:  All is well and getting better!

“Ever since Happiness heard your name,
It has been running through the streets
Trying to find you.”  – Hafiz


The Five Fears: And Public Speaking is only #Five!

The early months of this year were full with the launch of Transformational Speaking–Online!  So my article today is about one of the challenges we address throughout the course: the fear of speaking. Be sure to continue reading as there is a short video to help you center yourself on the spot!

Sometimes we stop ourselves from speaking our truth because fear rises up and shuts us down. You’ve heard it said that public speaking is our number one fear. After experiencing this myself for more than half my life, I was pleased to learn that Buddhism lists five top human fears, and “fear of speaking in front of a public assembly” is only the fifth.

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2012: Your Life is Speaking – What Story Will it Tell?

Foretellings from many cultures point to 2012 as the time when we pass from an old world and way of being to a new time on planet earth.  While we can recognize the economic, political and cultural turmoil around us as fundamental to this dynamic shift, and ultimately a good thing, it’s easy to shut down internally to try to ride out the storm. We want change, in fact for those of you reading this, you are likely one of those working for change. And now that it is happening in so many of the fundamental systems on which we have built our way of life, there’s a tendency to say, “Wait a minute. Not so fast! I haven’t learned how to keep up!”

sepia clockIt is no longer possible to stabilize our lives by managing time. Consider how we speak of time. Make time. Spend time. Save time. Invest time. And, of course, Time is money. The alternative is to learn to feel time and to manage our energy. When I say “feel time” I’m speaking of recognizing and respecting the internal currents that for each of us constitute a rhythm that allows us to operate from our wisdom and knowing, even in the midst of crisis and volatility and outer demands. It changes at different stages of our lives and, when we ignore the needs of our bodies, we risk showing up without a full heart. Continue reading

The Transformative Power of Place: See the Change!

John Muir

John Muir

“Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where nature may heal and cheer and give strength to the body and soul alike.” – John Muir

Once a man I loved wondered why I didn’t want to move into his ratty little house. He felt that love should prevail even if I didn’t like the place. When I told my sister about it, she commented, “You should tell him you grew up in a family that would spend two hours picking out a campsite.” Continue reading

The Alchemy of Change: Applying Obama’s “Secret” to Your Speaking

The Alchemy of Change: Understanding the Obama Phenomenon – and applying it to your speaking success

The Democratic National Convention in 2004 marked the historic speech that brought first-term senator Barack Obama of Illinois to national attention. Four years later his name and image are center stage and his capacity to touch people through speaking has led him all the way to the Oval Office. Obama understands something few speakers grasp: good information and delivery is not enough to be great. The capacity to inspire is where real change originates.

Obama’s presidential campaign inspired a previously silent majority to vote, signaling that “politics as usual” was in for a wild ride. The early Iowa primary heralded the beginning of young people and independents deciding it was time to have a voice in the governance of the United States. As we witnessed this man’s compelling message telling us that nothing can stand in the way of millions of voices calling for change, his words rang true: “There is nothing false about hope.” Continue reading

Body Rules! Extreme Cherishment of Your Precious, Worthy Self

“Take care of the children, for they have a long way to go.
Take care of the elders, for they have come a long way.
Take care of those in between, for they are doing the work.” – African Proverb

Yesterday I received a voice message from a friend and colleague whom I had asked if I might stay at her home during an upcoming conference. She expressed sheer delight that she had reached my message system instead of me so she didn’t have to have one more conversation. As for my request to stay at her home, she responded that she “could not get in touch with a yes” because she was in a place of “drastic over-interaction.” She explained that she needed to be fiercely protective of her time and space to be personally sustainable and suggested I come in a day early for the conference for quality time together and then book a room. Continue reading

Using Your Breath to Gain Focus & Calm Before Speaking

“Fear is merely excitement without the breath.” So stated the legendary psychiatrist Fritz Perls.

So when Sankara Saranam, founder of the Pranayama Institute, attended Real Speaking, I asked him to develop some breathing exercises for speakers. I tried his suggestions below and found them remarkable tools for becoming more present and focused.

Here are three simple yet highly effective methods to gain focus and utilize nervousness to one’s benefit before public speaking. These methods can also be used before meeting someone, to regain composure in a tense moment, or simply as a meditative exercise in the morning and evening by closing the eyes and directing the attention upward toward the brain, especially with every inhalation. Continue reading

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